Life has a funny way of throwing you off course sometimes but I am a great believer that when it all suddenly comes together - the time is right for that something special to happen.
It has taken me almost 15 months to get everything in place for this retreat to the Brecon Beacons and the fantastic Tall John's House. What better time to go there than when Spring has sprung. This 3 night Find Balance retreat is about leaving winter behind and giving our mind and body a spring boost. The combination of energetic morning yoga and slower mindful evening practices are perfect to shift those sluggish systems into gear and rid yourself of the stresses and strains our frantic pace of life can bring.
Although grand and elegant Tall John's oozes an atmosphere of homely cosiness. All meals are freshly prepared and every effort is made to use locally sourced and locally produced ingredients. A healthy breakfast, wholesome lunches and dinner is included in the retreat price. Plus, I love that cake suddenly appears each afternoon on the main hall table, along with tea or coffee. Plates stacked to the side ready for you to cut a slice and enjoy sitting by the fireside or on a window seat in one of the beautiful reception rooms. The beds are comfortable, the towels fluffy, the staff always on hand to ensure your needs are fully met. I cannot wait to use the newly renovated old barn for our twice daily yoga practices. It is an amazing space, bright and airy for the morning and the lighting can be adjusted to create a tranquil setting for evening.
Outside nature waits for you to explore - bird sanctuaries, walks, hikes, wildlife, rivers & local communities. Stay closer to your weekend home from home and wander round the grounds and walled garden of Tall John's. Have a sauna or find a quiet spot to relax and read. Angela Cox of Health- Healing and Happiness will also be available for you to book a facial, massage or other holistic treatment.
Make time for something special to happen - just for yourself - join me and press the restart button to put a spring in your step.
The benefits of interrupting busyness
Most of us have experienced times when we have felt stressed, lacked energy or focus, decided to take a break, to then come back feeling refreshed and ready to get going again.
The decision to take a break is our natural way to switch off the autopilot mode. The power of that simple action to interrupt your busy day has been well researched. That short period of downtime is enough to recharge your body and reset your brain improving attention, memory, creativity and performance.
Although it may not be feasible to take lots of breaks during your day, it is possible to regularly switch off the autopilot and - Take Notice. Autopilot is a doing, task orientated mode - you’re in your head. Take Notice is an awareness skill to get out of your head, and in to the present moment - being mindful. Evidence of the physical, psychological, and social benefits of mindfulness continues to grow. To quote Jon Kabat-Zinn
“There are few people I know on the planet who couldn't benefit more from a greater dose of awareness.”
Introducing Take Notice into your day could be a game changer. Once you start, you’ll be amazed how this simple action can help you tune in to how your environment and your actions are impacting your mind and body. In 30 seconds to 2 minutes you can get out of your head, in to the present moment and reap the benefits mini mindfulness moments can bring.
Remembering to take notice can be difficult to put into action at first. Persevere, the good news is, this awareness skill strengthens over time with practice. There are many ways and opportunities to Take Notice and reap the benefits of interrupting busyness. Here are a few 30 second - 2 minute suggestions to get you started.
Check -in: If nothing else this is the one to use regularly at any time of the day. Try it after a meeting, disagreement, a long hard day. The check- in helps to tune in to how your environment and actions are impacting you physically, mentally and emotionally.
Here's how: Stop, close your eyes and ask yourself. What is the speed of my mind or thoughts? How does my body feel - tired, is there tension anywhere? Is my breath shallow, rapid, long, smooth? What emotion am I feeling at this moment? That’s it - once you’ve checked in you have the information to either go back to autopilot or try one of the suggestions below to help address anything you have noticed.
Breathe: Wherever you are, at work, dinner, stuck in traffic, whatever the circumstances, take a long deep breath. Deep, relaxing breathing slows the heart rate, lowers blood pressure, turns down the “fight-or-flight” response and turns up the “rest & digest”system. A few deep breaths is also a powerful way to help take the edge off anxious moments and a great way to calm both the body and mind.
Name that emotion: Whatever you are feeling name it, Angry, Nervous, Sad. This simple technique of labelling your feelings can ease emotional pain in a nanosecond. Studies by UCLA revealed that putting feelings into words makes our feelings less intense as it shifts some of our brain activity from the emotional areas to the thinking areas of the brain. Secondly it was found, labelling those feelings in a mindfulness practice has a greater effect.
Listen: Walking the dog, checking your mail or on the train home - just for a minute - stop and listen. Ceasing physical motion, tuning in and allowing your environment to come alive around you can momentarily slow down a whirling mind. Wind, birdsong, city noises, office noise, kids at play. Let the sounds fill your field of your attention and choose to be a spectator for that minute. Then watch how your mind quickly comes back online when you return to motion.
Use your senses: Reconnect all your senses into the physical moment you’re in. Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, notice:
Make time to build wellness into your daily schedule and create a ripple effect of positivity in your body and mind.
The work hard or fail approach of our intense work culture, full calendars, constant messages, and the blurring of lines between work and family life is adding more to our days and leaving us with less energy. These demands stress the body, change it’s rhythms and encourage unhealthy behaviours such as wrong food choices, neglecting exercise, poor sleep habits. Add the physical stresses created by long periods of inactivity and you have the perfect recipe to threaten and impact physical, mental and emotional wellness.
As the relentless pace of our lives takes it’s toll there is an increasing need to make time to build wellness into our daily schedule. It’s about making a commitment to recognise, take effective action, and make choices to move towards a healthy and fulfilling life - to work at wellness.
The 5 themes below are skills that can help us regain a sense of ownership for our own health. Take Notice - an awareness tool, Release Tension, More Movement, Core Connection & Relax - action tools. The suggestions are examples of practical ways to implement the themes. This might seem really simple stuff but as the saying goes ‘bad habits are like chains that are too light to feel until they are too heavy to carry’
1.Take Notice: We check the condition of our cars more frequently than we check the greatest tool we have to gauge what’s going on inside our body and mind - the breath.
How you breathe directly effects your heart rate, which in turn can influence every major system in your body. For example when upset or anxious our breath becomes shallow and quickens, the body tenses, heart beat increases, oxygen levels lower, the brain senses this and a vicious cycle can begin.
Regularly checking this powerful gauge and choosing to take as little as two minutes to slow and deepen the breath can break that vicious cycle, change mood, improve attention and reduce the affects of stress.
2. Release Tension: Our hectic lifestyles create tension in fascia the network of connective tissue that surrounds and includes your muscles.This tension limits movement, triggers the stress response and many other reactions in the body.
YES yoga, meditation, deep breathing all help release tension. Research has shown massage reduces cortisol by around 30% and increases the feel good hormones serotonin and dopamine.
Self massage, especially Myofascial release using tennis/massage balls or a foam roller its a “no cost “way to target tension and boost your sense of well-being.
3. More Movement: If we exercise 7 days a week for 1 hour a day that equates to 4% of a week, leaving a huge 96% filled with…..inactivity?
This isn't about more exercise, its about keeping mobile and targeting the negative affects of inactivity. Find ways to move more and move in a variety of ways is the slogan to adopt here.
4. Core Connection Stress can create tension in the abdomen and cause poor digestion, constipation, IBS, mood imbalances, and more.
Several minutes focus on abdominal breathing with your hands placed one on top of the other over the abdomen stimulates the vagus nerve, the main communicator of our rest and digest system. It’s the primary medium through which the Enteric Nervous System ( ENS), also known as the second brain regulates mood. It also elicits our tend-and-befriend system, enabling us to reach out and connect with others. This is a critical factor in long-term stress resilience and, research shows, in happiness.
5. Relax:- Make space in your life to relax, rest and play. Push yourself too hard for long enough and you can become less adaptive, self critical, grumpy - an unhappy version of yourself. The worst - burnout.
If you find it easy to relax fab. However, it can be a challenge when your body and mind are in overdrive. Rest and play are great alternatives.
Original article published https://www.thriveglobal.com/stories/35363-5-ways-to-work-at-wellness
Balance: the process of holding something steady during change.
The yoga mat is an ideal place to practice Strength, Relaxation and Resilience. These three qualities help in that process of holding steady during change.
Strength: Expending energy to gain strength isn't always the answer. A harder, faster, better attitude can sometimes drain us. Looking at the familiar through a different lens can be challenging but can also lead to change. Sometimes it's the tiniest tweak that makes a difference. Strength focussed practices that help gather strength back into ourselves offer a way to recharge depleted energy levels.
Relaxation: “Trust your gut” is a common saying and most of the time our instincts are usually right. We spend our a lot of our day in our outer world and don’t have enough time for our inner world. That inner world holds information learned, experienced and gathered constantly throughout our life. When we act on these insights the term 'acting on instincts' is used. Being instinctive is a quality that increases or decreases depending on how much we practice doing it well.
Relaxation practices give us that much needed time away from the outside world, time to relax and create space to connect and listen to that inner world - that place of wisdom.
Resilience: the ability to respond appropriately to life’s challenges, problems and set-backs and come back stronger for them. “Bounce Back Ability” can be learned, asana practices, breath work, meditation, relaxation techniques can help build our resilience levels and the ability to come back stronger but also to come back to balance.
Treat yourself to 4 nights at my Find Balance retreat in Mykonos 18th- 22nd May and try out the practices of Strength, Relaxation and Resilience for yourself. click here for details
"Balance- the Process of Holding Something steady during Change"
On my first visit to Mykonos last year I found it an island full of contrasts.The glitz and glam shops, buzzing vibrant bars and nightlife then the traditional picture postcard whitewashed houses, iconic windmills, narrow pedestrian streets bedecked with bougainvillea and stunning scenery. Add a sky that glows with a fiery intensity as the sun sinks from heaven to meet a sea which during the day sparkles like it’s made of thousands of stars. Mykonos is something else!
However it was the beautiful way Mykonos has managed to retain it’s cultural history yet embrace the need for change that ignited my imagination and sparked the idea to hold my first Find Balance Yoga Retreat on this stunning island. Once a poor island in the Aegean, now known for its glitz and glam Mykonos has managed to find that thing most of us lack in this hectic world we live in - Balance.
In this high speed, high pressure and high stress world, we can find our lives get out of balance. We work so hard that work and family life can suffer, we can struggle to find down time, time to exercise, read, relax or time to simply enjoy a long hot shower. These modern day lifestyle demands can drain us physically, emotionally and mentally and make us ill.
As a yoga teacher I see the affect of these stresses regularly and as a yoga teacher I know yoga has a magical way of helping address these imbalances. This age old practice helps calm the restless mind and bring balance to the body.
This Retreat in Mykonos will introduce you to Yoga for mind-body well-being and my way of integrating traditional yoga, mindful movement and contemplative practices to help balance the stresses created by our modern lifestyles. The aim of the energising morning practices and relaxing sunset practices : to help boost energy, improve flexibility & strength, activate the relaxation response, reduce anxiety & stress, stimulate restful sleep and enhance immunity. I want you to go home with a selection of simple practices you can blend into your daily routine, practices that will help you manage times of change, transition, stress whenever they arise in your life.
To offer a 4 night Yoga Retreat in Mykonos, seemed to be the perfect short term break to help escape the demands of daily routines, find a place to relax, practice yoga, be pampered, eat well, meet people and especially find space to slow down, renew, review, re-connect - Find Balance.
Imagine my excitement when the Semeli luxury hotel agreed to my holding the retreat at this amazing sophisticated 5 star hotel, which nestles perfectly amongst the distinct Aegean style small white houses of Mykonos town Chora.
Semeli, a name from Greek mythology and a hotel that offers that unique blend I was looking for, sitting in perfect harmony with the surrounding architecture and environment but with contemporary modern luxury. Another example of - Balance
The Semeli shares many things in common my vision of a Find Balance Retreat. As you explore this luxury hotel you will notice how the hotel colours, stone, trees blend in perfect harmony with the sea and sky. The luxury accommodation together with unique personal customer services provides the ideal environment to treat yourself to that break from the demands of daily routines. Truly a space to slow down and re-connect.
Then there’s Aquaspa with is vast array of therapies and treatments for complete mind and body rejuvenation and the stunning pool with a fabulous decking area. Ideal for relaxing and that much needed pampering.
The food? Local suppliers provide the freshest locally sourced ingredients, with an aim to use local products with a certificate of quality. The breakfast offers a huge selection of dishes to set you up for the day. The Thioni Restaurant provides a place to enjoy a range of mouth watering traditional Greek cuisine in truly stunning surroundings.
To me finding balance is a lifetime project, it’s ongoing and actually not a finite goal. I once read this definition - “Balance - the process of holding something steady during change.”
I think those words reflect Mykonos, perfectly.
A catalyst for change and transformation
I'm not one for resolutions, so a couple of years ago when I came across the practice of choosing one word for the coming year as a focus, a theme, catalyst to help bring about transformation I was surprised how the idea appealed to me. Change is the driver of most of our failed resolutions so why did choosing one word resonate with me and seem to offer the possibility of success?
It was choosing a word, not a list of desires. One word as an every day reminder of an intention, made at the beginning of a new year, to take positive steps towards change. A word to help define how you move towards who you want to be, what you want to achieve, how you want to live.
There’s plenty advice out there about choosing your word should you like the idea but how do you put it into action?
As 2015 was drawing to an end I was reflecting back over the year. I was at a point in my life where things were going wrong. I had become complacent and neglected my business, it wasn’t in a good financial state. I was in a battle with a developer about damage to my home, add the end of a long term relationship, I felt stuck, trapped by circumstances and had no vision of better times ahead.
The one word theme struck me like lightning. Don’t focus on those things gone wrong, don’t try to put them right. How can you move forward, add, enhance, grow personally and professionally? What one word sums up what you feel needs to happen to change, bearing in mind the things you have no influence over? Presto my 2016 word came to mind - Expand.
A definition of Expand “ to increase in size, number, or importance” and synonyms: develop, supplement, enlarge on, add detail, flesh out. Also the words I used to describe what needed to happen for me to change: grow, add, enhance - expand was my word.
So there was my theme, my focus, a way to break out of the box of restrictive circumstances and thinking. Throughout the year I would look at situations, experiences, challenges, problems from the lens of that word - Expand. I made an effort to build new friendships and business relationships, grew my private client base, increased my yoga retreat business. I also focused my own self development and furthered my studies in mind body practices. I fed my passion for travel, other cultures, nature - to coin a phrase “ I expanded my horizons “
I actually expanded more than I could possibly imagine, beyond Gail Smith Yoga and took the first steps towards creating my wellness business, Wellness WorkSpace. An idea hatched from an opportunity I had been given by a client, one of the new relationships I had forged, to talk to her management team about mind-body wellness. By the end of 2016 Wellness WorkSpace started to take shape just in time for my 2017 word - Nurture.
In deciding Nurture I asked myself - what word was now appropriate to both my personal and business circumstances? I had worked extremely hard during 2016 to expand. I realised that to continue at such a pace could cost my health, affect relationships and my business. I also had a new hatchling Wellness WorkSpace. So my word Nurture seemed a right choice. A definition “ to care for and protect (someone or something) while they are growing” and synonyms: take care of, attend to, look after, support, tend, cultivation, advancement….
Throughout 2017 Nurture was there in the background. I still worked hard but this time it was in a nurturing way. I spent much more time with my family. I now have a very small, close circle of real friends. My travels and education continued. My yoga business flourished. At the beginning of the year my idea for Wellness WorkSpace gained me a place on a business accelerator programme and Wellness WorkSpace became a company in June.
So as 2017 is nearing a close I already have my word for 2018. This word has been shouting out to me for several months. It makes me smile when people say it or I come across it when reading etc
A definition of my word “unspecified qualities of a promising nature” “ a thing that may be chosen or done out of several possible alternatives”. Related words - chances, likelihood, prospect, hope, choice, achievability, alternative, solution, course of action.
The last two years I have expanded, broken free of the box. I've built new and hopefully strong foundations. Nurtured those foundations, those seeds of change, in an effort to create a new way of living and working that will keep evolving, changing, growing.
In using the one word theme I’ve realised limitations live only in our minds. Believe in yourself, have hope, understand there are always choices, chances, alternatives, solutions - all synonyms of my 2018 word - Possibilities
I've never been a great one to make resolutions perhaps because I always feel a failure when just weeks after setting them they end up being broken or unaccomplished. If you really want to set some resolutions as we approach 2018 here are some tips that may help you see them though to a positive conclusion.
1. It’s my belief that Resolutions are doomed to failure when based around denying yourself something and using the word STOP..... I am going to stop smoking, drinking alcohol, eating chocolate …….
Tip : Set a resolution for a shorter period than STOP, give yourself a time frame to carry out the resolution, remove the statement of denial and replace it with a positive intention
“For the month of January I will be a non smoker, alcohol free, replace chocolate with……”
Why? Shorter goals are more achievable, there's no outright denial of something you like but feel harms you. At the end of your given period and you've succeeded, you then have a choice, to continue for another period or pat yourself on the back for achieving your Resolution!
2. Some Resolutions are based around fixing a problem we want to solve but we try to solve it with the same solution that failed previously.... I am going back to the gym to get fit. I am going to start my diet again to loose weight ……
Tip : Fix the problem with a different solution! Find another way to tackle the issue, something you are interested in doing and that suits your needs.
Don’t really like the gym? Go swimming, running or something else you like to do.
Can't afford membership fees? Walk, run or do something at home.
Too busy to get to the gym/class? Take up a sport or activity which fits in with the time you have spare.
Why diet again? If you want to loose weight think of a change that moves towards a healthier lifestyle rather than a period of denial by dieting. Buy a healthy cookery book or go on a cookery course. View it as an ongoing process to learn new ways of eating and cooking.
3. Why focus only on putting right the wrongs?
Tip: Think of Resolutions as opportunities to try new things
This year I will learn a language, play an instrument, travel to…, volunteer to help out with….. No denial there just the sweet promise of the possibilities of a new experience.
4. If you really, really want to make resolutions make them 24 times next year by following the new and full moon cycles!
Tip: The new moon is seen as a time for new beginnings, the full moon a time to take stock, review, evaluate, let go.
Each new moon make an intention/goal/resolution that seems appropriate to your needs at that present moment. Then each full moon take stock of where you are, review and let go of what no longer serves you. This can help you attune to and fine tune what is happening in your life through a continuous process of change and evolution.
Happy New Year!
There is something about the dynamic relationship between strength and stability, openness and grounding, moments of stillness and at the same time feeling the vibration of pure energy course through me as I extend into half moon, that captivates me and makes this balancing pose one I come to on a regular basis.
My moods can pull me to practice this pose whether it’s to use the focus and attention the pose requires to calm a chatting mind or to feel strong and steady when mentally I’m wobbling or the opposite - to expand with confidence in all directions because I just can! Then there’s the times when my physical energy levels seek this pose. I’m full of energy and need to channel it to come to stillness or the opposite I need a boost to feel alive, vibrant. There are many poses we can turn to, to help respond to the constant changes taking place within and without. For me to practice half moon and find the state of balance regardless of conditions and inclusive of all circumstances is powerful just like our moon.
"The moon does not fight. It attacks no one. It does not worry. It does not try to crush others. It keeps to its course, but by its very nature, it gently influences. What other body could pull an entire ocean from shore to shore? The moon is faithful to its nature and its power is never diminished."
There’s an amazing energy shift in a room when the people in your yoga class drop into and influence the rhythm of their own breath. You don't have to be the teacher to be aware of this shift, anyone who is present experiences it and it makes me smile when I turn to them and silently mouth “ can you feel this ?“. Immediately I get the wide eyed, affirmative nod of “ oh yes and wow”
It happened recently when teaching a Sales Force Team at an early morning Yoga session. I had themed the class around solutions to ease the tension and stress created by standing “on the job” for over 8 hours a day. Prolonged standing is associated with short-term adverse health issues including fatigue, leg cramps and backaches, which can affect job performance and cause significant discomfort. A study published in Human Factors suggests that this type of sustained long-lasting muscle fatigue may contribute to musculoskeletal disorders and back pain.
From the outside looking in, that group of people lying on their backs, knees bent, eyes closed with their hands over their abdomen would appear to be inactive and certainly not doing anything dynamic. However they were tuning into and positively influencing a thing we take for granted and repeat on average 23,000 times a day — the breath. In particular, they were practicing deep abdominal or diaphragmatic breathing. A simple breathing technique which requires watching the rise and fall of the belly as you slowly and deeply inhale and exhale through the nose.
Deep abdominal breathing has many benefits, in this class I introduced it to
* Trigger parasympathetic dominance — the part of the autonomic nervous system that governs rest, digest and regeneration — the relaxation response. Learning how to initiate the relaxation response through deep abdominal breathing gives us a tool to help reduce muscle tension, decrease the incidence of certain stress-related disorders, increase a sense of well-being and turn off the overactive sympathetic nervous system, the flight-or-flight or stress response.
* Help the respiratory system work more efficiently. Deep abdominal breathing encourages full oxygen exchange - that is, the beneficial trade of incoming oxygen for outgoing carbon dioxide. It also help slow the heartbeat and lower or stabilise blood pressure.
* Help tone the deep core muscles and improve posture. With abdominal breathing the diaphragm works together with the pelvic floor muscles, abdominal muscles (transversus abdominis, obliques and rectus abdominis) and back muscles (multifidus, erector spinae, quadratus lumborum and more) to pre-activate and provide support to the body during movement. Together, these muscles are important muscles for healthy pain-free movement patterns.
We could all benefit from taking time to practice deep abdominal breathing even for just a few minutes a day. Many of us will feel its unnatural especially when chest (thoracic ) or clavicular (stress) breathing is your norm. Chest and clavicular breathing can have negative consequences if overused or used exclusively. They are shallow breathing patterns which activate the sympathetic nervous system, the fight-or-flight or stress response in the body.
Overusing the chest muscles for breathing is a subtle but major cause of escalating stress, tension and anxiety. Clavicular breathing recruits the muscles of the upper torso and neck. This isolated use of these muscles for breathing is most commonly seen in people who have asthma or lung disease but if you have adopted that rounded, forward head, turtle shape posture while in front of a computer or looking into your devices you could be also in a clavicular breathing pattern. Think of how your shoulders fly up towards your ears when a sudden loud noise goes off. Imagine holding that tension in your neck and shoulders constantly while you go about your day to day life — that’s clavicular breathing.
I like to think of the rhythm of the breath as a barometer of your wellbeing. Deep, slow breathing brings calm, tranquil, free from disturbance conditions, shallow breathing, a sign of stress and turbulent times. A few minutes a day using some of the 23,000 breaths we take to enhance the connection to abdominal breathing is a simple and free way to help reduce stress, muscle tension, improve posture, tone the core muscles - positively change your well-being.
Finally, that energy shift in the class - a definite sign that calm, tranquil, free from disturbance conditions were present — its like the room, the people, the space were cocooned in a living breathing gigantic comfort blanket.
Original article published www.thriveglobal.com/stories/13696-the-rhythm-of-the-breath-a-barometer-of-your-well-being
I recently returned from teaching a yoga retreat in Umbria with an overwhelming sense of having left something behind. Not a belonging, something was missing inside. It wasn’t worrying I just felt different. Retreats are about taking time out to recharge, rest and yes the aim to come back with a greater sense of wellbeing but this sensation was weird. Then I realised I had unplugged, lost the buzz and the weird sensation was actually a sense of calm an ease in my mind and body. Read more at www.thriveglobal.com/stories/10985-lose-the-buzz-and-gain-balance